I would know, because this was my story, too. Pining after men who’d made it completely clear they were simply uninterested in committing to me. Working entirely too hard at “preserving” relationships that were headed nowhere, and certainly not toward commitment. Doing the same old thing, over and over again, expecting a different result, when finally the right guy would come along. 

When all of a sudden my lightbulb moment came to me — Newsflash, Crystal: you’re the common denominator here. 

Now, am I saying there was something wrong with me and that’s why I wasn’t attracting the kind of man I wanted to be with? No, I most certainly am not. After all, I was building the life I wanted to live in all other aspects. But I was going about dating all wrong. I went on hundreds of dates, joined all the apps, took all the courses, read all the books, and I even tried online matchmaking.  

Now, my husband and I wouldn’t be together today had it not been for one of those apps — truly, we wouldn’t even know each other. But it was me, my patterned beliefs (feeling unworthy, unloveable and that anything healthy was too good to be true) that nearly prevented me from ending up happily married to Kobi. 

And, that’s when I learned one of the most important lessons that brought me to make a career out of helping women change the choices and actions that aren’t serving them to magnetize their perfect match.  

If we don’t change our patterns of behavior, we run the risk of ending up unhappily ever after.

Too many women are trying to play a game devoid of rules except a generally-accepted set of patterned behaviors (none of which are serving any of us, mind you) thinking that one day it will pay off differently than it has in the past—which is actually, not ironically, the definition of insanity. 

It’s time to get it right. It’s time to take a stand for what we all deserve: real, honest, lasting, passionate love. A love that’s forged not in games and silly facades, but built on the firm foundation of confidence, self-assuredness, and meet-them-or-move-on standards. 

My signature approach to attracting loving relationships has helped hundreds of women since 2018.