November 21, 2019
In this video, I’m sharing the three most important things that allowed me to use the law of attraction to manifest my husband fast. Whether you want to manifest your husband, a boyfriend, your soulmate, or just more dates with great guys — you can learn how to make the law of attraction work for you. Manifesting love is a topic that can really sound very woo woo and out there and kind of crazy and esoteric. So I want to just break down some of the most important steps so that you can actually implement this into your life.
It should come as no surprise that if you want to use the law of attraction to manifest love or a loving relationship, part of the work will be your intention. However, I’ve seen that setting an intention is something that also is widely misunderstood. It can sort of sound like wishy washy or just like a wish, something that you want that’s been an intention.
An intention has power behind it.
For example, when I decided that I was ready to call in the love of my life, I declared that year the Year of the Man.
That’s what an intention is about. It’s about putting your energy behind something that you want to do. It’s not enough to just say, “oh, I hope this happens,” “maybe it’ll happen, but maybe it won’t.” It’s about putting the force of your will behind your desire. That is a powerful energy that you’re then sending out.
It’s powerful for your own focus and direction, but it’s also telling the universe, “this is what I want.” It’s even stronger than a goal because before you even start taking action, you’ve put your energy behind it.
Another way you can think about it is the difference between saying, “Oh, I’d like that to happen.That’d be really nice,” as opposed to, “this is going to happen no matter what. I’m going to do everything in my power to ensure it does.”
People love to say that dating is a numbers game. But the truth is, if you’re using the law of attraction to manifest love and you’re willing to date intentionally, dating is not a numbers game. Dating is a sifting game. The best sifter wins.
What that means is that you have to have absolute clarity on what you desire and then you actually have to act on it clearly means you actually know what you want and what you need and what will bring joy and satisfaction to a relationship.
Here’s one thing that I see with women all the time: they don’t actually know what they want.
They think they know what they want to have an idea in their mind of like, “oh, this will be so amazing. This will be perfect,” but it’s actually not leading them towards a happy, healthy, loving, committed relationship.
This is a huge problem when it comes to using the law of attraction to manifest love.
Let me give you an example of this. One of the biggest misconceptions I hear about is this concept called settling. Women say this all the time, I don’t want to settle. I don’t want to settle. I refuse to settle. And then they meet a guy and he’s really, really good looking and he has a great job and he has plenty of money and he’s so charming and he treats her like garbage and they’re just like, “Oh my God, he’s so hot.”
And they think they’re not settling.
And then there’s a guy who’s a little bit more average, but he’s kind, he’s got similar values and goals and he shows up consistently over and over again.
And I’m not saying he’s a schmuck, he’s just not gorgeous necessarily. He’s maybe not the richest man you’ve ever met, but he shows up. He’s investing in you, he’s committed to you. They say, “well, I don’t want to be with him. I don’t want to settle.”
With the guy who’s not interested in you, who’s not investing in you, who’s not stepping up for you, you’re settling. With the other one, you’re not.
Settling isn’t really about the qualities of the other person. Settling is about their intention, their investment in you, and the way you feel when you’re with them and without them.
This is another thing that I see is that a woman will feel great when she’s with a particular guy, but then she doesn’t hear from him for weeks and she’s miserable the entire time because she doesn’t know where he stands.
He’s not actually showing any sort of continuing interest.
Again, it’s not just how you feel in the moment with him, but how is he showing up when you’re not together? Is he interested in maintaining any sort of connection with you? That’s a big part of clarity, is understanding what you actually need and want what’s actually going to lead you towards happiness in the long term.
So that’s the first thing is understanding the distinction between when are you settling versus when are you not settling. And then understanding what qualities are actually gonna lead you towards a happy, healthy, loving, committed relationship with someone, a relationship that can last, that will actually bring you joy over the long term.
The way that you have to think about this is subjective versus objective qualities. A lot of people get very hung up on the objective qualities, things like where did he go to school? What job does he have? How tall is he? You know, does he have the color eyes that I prefer? All these objective qualities.
It’s okay to have some preferences, but you have to understand that most of the objective qualities that you’re considering are not actually leading you towards long term satisfaction, happiness. They’re very surface. You want to make sure that you keep your focus on subjective qualities, things like kindness, trustworthiness and humor.
The third part of this clarity, understanding what settling is, having clarity on the subjective qualities that are actually gonna lead to your own happiness and satisfaction.
Now that you have all this information, you actually have to apply it and sift effectively.
Then now you have all this information and you actually have to use it. It’s one thing to sort of sit down and write out a list. Here’s what I want. It’s another thing to encounter someone and actually decide I’m going to date this person or I’m not based on where we are or are not aligned.
That’s really the challenge, right, is you might meet someone who’s tall, dark, and handsome, and charming, but he’s not kind. He’s not loyal, he’s not interested in a committed relationship at all.
A good sifter is able to say, “you’re super hot. I love our chemistry, but no, this is not for me.”
Those are the women that are able to leverage the law of attraction for love and actually manifest the committed relationships that they want. That’s the way that I was able to go from single to married to the love of my life in less than a year. So I want to hear, tell me below in the comments, what are the five qualities that you would say are the most important for you to find in a partner? Step three is create a daily practice with manifestation. What you’re trying to do is become an energetic match for the thing that you desire.
All this really means is that you want to believe that you are worthy of the thing that you desire, that the thing that you desire exists and that you can have it. That’s really what manifesting love and law of attraction comes down to. So energetic matches a more accurate term, but it’s really just about believing that you can have what you want. If you’ve ever thought what I want doesn’t exist, the men that I like don’t like me, I’ll never be able to have the relationship I desire. I’m not good enough. I’m not this or that enough. I’m not rich enough. I’m not from this kind of background. All of that means you’re not an energetic match for what you ultimately desire because you’re not believing that you can have the thing that you want.
In my program, the School of Manifesting Love, I go step by step through how you can actually upgrade your entire belief system so this becomes really easy and natural. I break down the entire process of how to manifest love using the law of attraction as well as the other universal laws. But a simple shortcut to begin upgrading your beliefs is through repetition.
Creating a daily practice to support you in manifesting love allows us to do that: it allows you to keep your intention, this powerful force that you’ve put out with your energy top of mind, and it allows you to make decisions that are in alignment with what you want to create. This is where much of the power in using the law of attraction for love comes from.
For example, for me, one of the things that I did was I looked at my Man-ifesto every day. In the morning, I would look it over really quickly and then at night I would look at it again. It allowed me to stay focused on what I wanted. As I read through my manifesto more and more, it became more real to me. It became more vivid.
It felt like something that was not only possible, but close. Something that I could absolutely have and that’s what’s powerful.
These three steps that you can take that are powerful, but it’s not the full picture. I have a 6-Step Magnetism Formula which is all six steps needed to manifest the love you desire. manifesting the love that you want. I’ve actually created a free masterclass completely around this. I go in depth to each of the six steps, I explain some of the biggest mistakes you’re likely making, and what you need to do to change them.
Also, if you’d like to join a community of women just like you who are smart, successful, attractive, and looking for love, please join Magnetizing Love, my free Facebook community.